(as of October 2013) OkCupid got rid of their Journal feature, so moving all of my posts over to Blogger... My OkCupid profile is here... http://www.okcupid.com/profile/multipassionate

Friday, November 28, 2008

A bit of a rant...

Just a word of advice, guys... When you message, 1) please make sure that you've actually read my profile, not just looked at my pictures (if you have phrases like "doing the work of God" in your profile and I say I'm looking for an atheist or agnostic, we probably don't match, even if you think I'm hot). Also on that note, at least for me, mentioning that you think I'm cute/hot/good-looking is not a turn-on - if you are messaging me, then obviously you don't find my pictures repulsive. 2) please write more than "Hi, what's up?" Your message should in some way show that you're interested in something about my profile. I know that it takes longer to write a personalized message, but if you're really interested in me specifically, please take the time. If you just want to announce a general interest, then woo me or favorite me. I'm less likely to respond to that, but it will probably get me to look at your profile. 3) if you are really interested in me, and I don't respond after your first message, it's ok to message again. It doesn't magically mean that I will all of a sudden like you, but sometimes a second look means I see something I missed before. However, if I haven't responded after your second message, sorry, I'm just not interested. 4) And just to repeat what it says in my profile... If we're less than 75-80% match, please be specific about why you think we would be able to hold an interesting conversation, because most likely, it will not be obvious from your profile. Ok, I think my rant is over... and now I will apologize a bit... I'm sorry that I don't answer every single message. I do feel bad, but my experience has been that showing any interest (aka messaging back even if I say I'm not interested) tends to lead to more messages. Also I have other things to do in my life besides responding to every little OkCupid message.

1 comment:

  1. You say that you want guys to write you long love letters in messages to you that you will then ignore without so much as a thank you? Lol, my time is important too. So instead of a love letter, I'm responding with my own little rant. And no, I probably won't desperately send you a second message hoping that you'll magically fall in love with me after ignoring the first message. You seem alright, if a bit of an overachiever. Will you really have time for a relationship with all the stuff that you're doing/ trying to do?

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