I have guys (and women) ask me sometimes - how can you have time for a relationship, but not have time for dating?
First off, I have never met anyone that I've been truly interested in through dating (online sites or otherwise) - I meet interesting-to-me men through mutual friends, at conferences or events, and through non-matchmaking websites/social media - or often times, some combination of all of those! :-)
And the truth is I don't have time for a regular ol' relationship - but I do have time for an amazing relationship! :-) Being in an ok relationship takes more away from my life (in terms of time and energy) than it gives back, and even a good relationship is usually only a slight net positive. But in an amazing relationship (at least for me), even just having the person around (physically or virtually) for the slightest bit adds to my life. Even if we're not seeing each other all that often because we don't live in the same place or we're traveling or we're working a lot - just knowing that the person is there emotionally helps to comfort and inspire both of us. That's not to say that I wouldn't love to spend tons of time with my significant other when we're both free or if we're working on the same project - but it's recognizing that we're both living full lives and we're both complete and whole (and awesome!) by ourselves. We don't *need* each other, but we want each other. To me, it's not worth being with someone unless we're both passionate about each other. :-)
And to that mutually-passionate end, when I do meet someone that I am romantically connected with, of course I would love if they felt the same way - but if they don't, that's fine too. They're still an amazing person, and I still think they're awesome, and I'm still going to be good friends with them and want the best for them, including finding someone who they do feel wildly passionate about and who is passionate about them back. :-)
